Life & Love -- Alot to Learn from!!: 2012

Relative - Strength or Shame

11:56 AM

Family - How important is this word in our life? How many of us realize the duties towards this simple word?

Simple yet a very strong bond lies in this word for us. Even without us realizing it, we are bond within the beautiful relations called FAMILY.

There was a time when family's strength lied on the people who tied it with their love, care, restrictions n may be some were religious beliefs. As even though people didn't like them all they did obey and it resulted in togetherness and care for one another.

What is the importance of it today? We say that we are independent and hence don't need any restrictions or beliefs or ancestral thoughts to bind us. Which resulted in Hatred, Jealousy, Ego etc within us. Strange but true , I am not talking about this without any experience but it had gone thru it and saw the changes myself. A time when our Grandfather was alive and his rules n restrictions were alive, the word Family was much more different from what it is now.

Relatives - aren't they suppose to be your strength? How many of us have gone thru a rough phase in life because of them?? I am sure many of us would have raised their hands up now. Uncles, Aunts, Cousins, Paternal & Maternal side relations etc. have treated you the same as their daughter or sons? if you ask me its NONE !!

How cruel the world is when it comes to money? Is money so important to us that we forget our own blood relations? We feel the happiness when we see them down and failed in life? Where does all that EGO comes from , is that Money Magic??

Yes, Definitely Money is important; it made me believe as I see that every day in my life. How a blood related sister feels happy to see her brothers draining in life and she wouldn't think of helping them or standing with them but instead goes to their house and shows off her fake Sympathy and put them down. Our own siblings will not think twice before asking their share when the time of crisis, Sometimes they become the reason behind it. The one who respects love & relationships is always stood as Dumb and lost everything but would still have a SMILE and feel happy that the opposite is none other than my Sister /Brother. How foolish isn't it? Sometimes in life we have to be selfish when we know the intentions of the other person is to hurt us. This Circle of love, Relationship, Bond etc. arent meant for today's genre.

A beautiful and Innocent heart doesn't matter but a beautiful skin and fair color matters to Ur relatives as they don't want to be teased and felt ashamed off while introducing you to their circle of friends or world. These small things are never noted down normally. But sometimes when see a hurted heart or some who longs of such relation you will know the reason behind it. Why go far, I am myself an example. always wanted a Elder brother to hold my hands and love me unconditionally like my father does but instead i always was ignored and left out cause i am not good looking or rather not fit to be in their company. Hurt every much within but still went on thinking i would have someone like that in my life once for sure. Finally after so many years of longing i did find one such person & my family pic looked complete. But not for long.. after 4 beautiful years of that relationship it also had to come to end being bullied by someone else ego & immaturity and thus again the heart was hurt.

Crazy world and Crazy attitude of people here to take,

For what I know LOVE is eternal,

World Filled with Good & Bad experiences to give,

Hoping one day he would be here on the other side to take.

So tell me what do you think or have experienced on over this " Relative " or " Family " ?

Love

Nitz

A Sorry Note !!

11:44 AM

Relationships Never Die Of A Natural Death !!!

9:56 AM

How true is the saying above!! For instance take a minute and think, Have you ever ended any beautiful relationship of trust n respect for such silly reasons? Hurt them for something that doesn't matter at all?

I am sure most of us did, doesn't matter if it ended with all your consent or sometimes without. We all tend to go with the flow of the situation and end up hurting our self or others. "Situations" worse thing to describe it. I always believed relationships needs to be nurtured and cared about it for it to grow a long way ahead, just a smile to show you care, a message saying "I Love you" to show you there forever, Holding on to the stumbling relation and say " Everything will be fine " showing you will face every moment together. These small gestures can do wonders in their life, But do we come forward and do them for our loves ones without thinking if they have done anything in return for us or not. I have seen many of them complaining that their partner doesn't care for them and hence they care a damn.... and in my mind a laugh and think - "How stupid of this person that they compare Love & Care with all these ego and attitude, Is it really worth it?

My life neither has been prefect, it had been tangled with loads of ups & down until i didn't give up my ego or you can say attitude. After few hard lessons that relationship has taught me, I now understand the depth of it. Its easy to make relations, be friends, make close relations like brothers or sisters, being a intimate partner and others. But what makes it DIE?? Is it attitude, Ego the only reasons? Each one of the reasons have their own effect but people dont understand that this will in return end up being a disaster.

I always wondered when you love a person what is it there to be insecured about them? So does that mean you don't trust your own loved ones? You don't trust the love and respect you have for the relationship?

The last time I was with a friend of mine who had a strange situation, this contained jealously and insecurity from their partner's Sister like figure. After listening to the complete conversation I just wanted to go up to her and ask what is it that your so scared off ? You love a person doesn't mean that you have bonded them to be only your, He is married to you coz he loves you, doesn't that give you enough security ?? Why are you so jealous of someone whom he calls as his " Sister " ?? WHY??? I just couldn't digest the fact that someone can be so immature and stupid to spoil a relationship and think that they will be happy forever after ruining it. Sometimes people forget that what goes around comes around too.. The worst when he said my friend that he loves his wife too much to hurt her. I kept thinking to figure out if he loved his wife so much then does he need to accompany her in her false attitude and thoughts? Doesn't he has guts to confront her and make her understand that she is wrong if she thinks by breaking one relation the other will go on happily ???

After so much running in my head i finally asked her to quit this brotherly feeling and get out of it as its not worth. Why do you need to shed tears for the one who thinks ur trash? Who wants to have people around only which his wife agrees to keep them? For god sake this lady was someone he called as sister and not some chick that you pass ur time with, how can someone have issues with that?? I still don't get a valid reason for it.

Relationship are not god made but human made hence it doesn't matter if you are blood related or a stranger is more than a blood related relation for you. All that matters is the care and respect for each other. That when i understood the meaning to - "Relationships Never Die Of A Natural Death !!! But they are Killed by Ego, Attitude and sometimes Insecurity"

Do you think what he did to my friend was right by listening to his wife?? whats your thought on it??

Love,

Nitz